In light of the recent Boston tragedies... My son and I had a conversation that I shared on Instagram and it got so much positive feed back that I had to elaborate and write an article about it.
On the way to school my son said, I am sending positive energy to everyone in Boston, except the guy who did the bombing. I said, no honey he needs more love than anybody. My son said, why Mommy? I said, something very sad must have happened to this person when he or she was young. Maybe they didn't have the positive parents that you have. I explained to him that sending love to people who you hate is one of the hardest things in the world to do, but that is the ONLY way to create a non-violent world. The shift has to happen, and it starts with you!
Of course, first and for most we send healing light to the victims, but these monsters that do these heinous crimes, were once innocent children. As a parent, you have to take responsibility to raise non-violent, loving, conscious people. It all starts with parenting. Children learn by example.
Here are some ways that you can connect with your children to ensure that they can be the change that we all need so badly in this world.
* Spend quality time with your children. I know we are all busy these days, but it's not about quantity it's about quality. Give them 100% of your attention for a certain amount of time each day. Be in their world, do what they want to do. Show them you are interested.
* Just because kids are new to this life and little does not mean they don't deserve respect. Let them speak their opinion and have a choice. Let them be heard, even if it is not a realistic idea. Do not shut them down. Let them speak.
* Each day, several times a day, connect with your child. I literally mean, get down on the ground, at their eye level and look them eye to eye. The reassuring eye contact does wonders for child's confidence. It helps them feel that they are supported.
* Compassion. As silly as losing a lego or a favorite doll may seem to you, to a child it is the end of the world. Have compassion for them and console them. Once they are acknowledged they will miraculously settle down. Otherwise if they are not acknowledged with love, compassion, and respect then their actions will become louder and bigger and turn into a temper tantrum. True, temper tantrums are a child's way of acting out because they are not getting their way, but it's not how you think. It's not really about wanting a toy or wanting to go first or whatever the incident at that moment caused the trigger to create a temper tantrum, it's about not getting the attention they need and deserve on a regular basis.
* Cuddle time. No person is too old for cuddles and hugs. Make sure to hold your child and cuddle them each day. The only time some children are comforted or cuddled is when they get hurt, so I often see children being more dramatic about being hurt even if it isn't that bad of an in jury just to get love form their parents. It becomes a bad habit and trigger to get attention. To avoid this, give them plenty of attention and cuddles throughout the day.
* Teach your child to always surround themselves in a white bubble or mirrors facing outward, so that they can be protected form negativity. It is like that old sang, whatever you say to me bounces of me and sticks to you like glue. The white bubble or mirrors will bounce anything harmful off of them so that they don't absorb the negative energy. Our generation of children are so sensitive and teaching them these simple things can save them so much pain in the future and ensure that they will continue to spread love and light.
* Kids do what you do, not what you say. You can not hope to have a good child if you are cussing and violent with them or others. Be an example for your children. Be who you want them to grow up to me and more.
- "If we hope to create a non-violent world where respect and kindness replace fear and hatred, we must begin with how we treat each other at the beginning of life. For that is where our deepest patterns are set. From those roots grow fear and alienation or love and trust."Turning Hate Into Love. It All Starts With Parenting.
In light of the recent Boston tragedies... My son and I had a conversation that I shared on Instagram and it got so much positive feed back that I had to elaborate and write an article about it.
On the way to school my son said, I am sending positive energy to everyone in Boston, except the guy who did the bombing. I said, no honey he needs more love than anybody. My son said, why Mommy? I said, something very sad must have happened to this person when he or she was young. Maybe they didn't have the positive parents that you have. I explained to him that sending love to people who you hate is one of the hardest things in the world to do, but that is the ONLY way to create a non-violent world. The shift has to happen, and it starts with you!
Of course, first and for most we send healing light to the victims, but these monsters that do these heinous crimes, were once innocent children. As a parent, you have to take responsibility to raise non-violent, loving, conscious people. It all starts with parenting. Children learn by example.
Here are some ways that you can connect with your children to ensure that they can be the change that we all need so badly in this world.
* Spend quality time with your children. I know we are all busy these days, but it's not about quantity it's about quality. Give them 100% of your attention for a certain amount of time each day. Be in their world, do what they want to do. Show them you are interested.
* Just because kids are new to this life and little does not mean they don't deserve respect. Let them speak their opinion and have a choice. Let them be heard, even if it is not a realistic idea. Do not shut them down. Let them speak.
* Each day, several times a day, connect with your child. I literally mean, get down on the ground, at their eye level and look them eye to eye. The reassuring eye contact does wonders for child's confidence. It helps them feel that they are supported.
* Compassion. As silly as losing a lego or a favorite doll may seem to you, to a child it is the end of the world. Have compassion for them and console them. Once they are acknowledged they will miraculously settle down. Otherwise if they are not acknowledged with love, compassion, and respect then their actions will become louder and bigger and turn into a temper tantrum. True, temper tantrums are a child's way of acting out because they are not getting their way, but it's not how you think. It's not really about wanting a toy or wanting to go first or whatever the incident at that moment caused the trigger to create a temper tantrum, it's about not getting the attention they need and deserve on a regular basis.
* Cuddle time. No person is too old for cuddles and hugs. Make sure to hold your child and cuddle them each day. The only time some children are comforted or cuddled is when they get hurt, so I often see children being more dramatic about being hurt even if it isn't that bad of an in jury just to get love form their parents. It becomes a bad habit and trigger to get attention. To avoid this, give them plenty of attention and cuddles throughout the day.
* Teach your child to always surround themselves in a white bubble or mirrors facing outward, so that they can be protected form negativity. It is like that old sang, whatever you say to me bounces of me and sticks to you like glue. The white bubble or mirrors will bounce anything harmful off of them so that they don't absorb the negative energy. Our generation of children are so sensitive and teaching them these simple things can save them so much pain in the future and ensure that they will continue to spread love and light.
* Kids do what you do, not what you say. You can not hope to have a good child if you are cussing and violent with them or others. Be an example for your children. Be who you want them to grow up to me and more.
- "If we hope to create a non-violent world where respect and kindness replace fear and hatred, we must begin with how we treat each other at the beginning of life. For that is where our deepest patterns are set. From those roots grow fear and alienation or love and trust."